We’ve all been there. To hell and back that is.
We’ve all found ourselves caught in the throes of a new romantic connection that seemed so perfect in the beginning and then died out so suddenly that we were left reeling in the aftershocks and wondering what happened?
It usually goes something like this: We meet a man who seems so promising and full of potential in the beginning that we allow ourselves to get caught up in a whirlwind romance, one that has all the markings of a long term relationship.
He comes on like gangbusters, ardently pursuing and letting us know in a multitude of ways that he’s into us.
He calls, texts, drops by unexpectedly and makes no secret of the fact that he just can’t get enough of us.
In the early stages of a relationship like this it’s easy to get caught up in the moment. We start thinking ahead, looking at what a future with this person might be like and allowing ourselves to dive in head first.
How to Avoid Psychic Scams
One of the most disheartening aspects I’ve found in working as an online psychic in the number of clients who have either been taken to the cleaners by psychic scammers or who have become brainwashed into believing that legitimate psychics should be able to do what the scammers claim they can do.
These are injustices that have not only been unleashed on vulnerable and unsuspecting clients, they also make it next to impossible for legitimate psychics to practice their crafts.
Imagine coming across a psychic who could not only read other people’s minds but could also tell you what they are thinking, feeling and doing at any given time and on top of that could make them do anything you wanted them to do.
In truth no one can do this. Not the best psychic in the world, or the worst scammer on the planet. But there are those in the latter category who claim that they can, and who have no problem taking advantage of your desire to believe them.
The Waiting Game
One of the most common questions I get asked as a psychic is: “when will he (or she) call?”
This usually comes on the heels of one of two potential relationship scenarios:
1: they’ve made a connection with someone who seemed promising at the time but hasn’t followed up; or
2: there’s been discord in an existing relationship and no one has called to try to make things right.
In both scenarios the client is clearly “waiting” for the other person to make a move, but what they don’t understand is that getting that to happen is far more in their hands than anything else, and that what they do (or don’t do) now can make all the difference in the world.
Getting the Most From Your Psychic Reading
Let’s face it: there are a lot of bad psychics out there. Or a lot of bad people masquerading as psychics.
There are those who prey on the most vulnerable members of our society by either failing to tell them the truth (after all, they make a lot more money feeding into people’s fantasies), or telling them outright lies for the exact same reason.
The word “Psychic” comes from the Greek word psychikos and means “of the mind” or “of the psyche.” It does not refer to mind-reading or fortune telling or similar mind-blowing parlor tricks.
Unfortunately these are popular misconceptions, based on media mockery and the unscrupulous practices of some who use them to make a quick buck.
Psychic readings can be tremendously valuable, provided that you approach them with both an open mind and a healthy sense of logic. Be sure to read my article When Psychic Readings Fail for insight into the ways they might not be so valuable.
Soulmate Relationships: Finding Your Other Half
One of the questions I get asked most frequently as a psychic is “When will I meet my soulmate?”
The term “soulmate” is often used interchangeably with “other half” but they’re essentially the same thing.
The question of when is often followed by how (as in under what circumstances) when it really should be more along the lines of “What changes can I make in myself to become the best version of me so that I can attract the right partner into my life?”
Let’s face it, most of us are looking for someone to share our lives with.
And for those of us who haven’t yet found that perfect someone, the desire to do so can become the strongest motivating factor in our lives.
But if motivation alone were enough to create happily-ever-afters, none of us would ever have to worry about finding our other halves.
When Psychic Readings Fail
If you’re reading this, chances are good that you’ve had some experience with psychics and psychic readings.
And if you’ve had more than a few, chances are good that you’ve seen how some predictions pan out while others fail. If you’re wondering why, then this article is for you.
While sometimes it’s a matter of finding the right “fit,” and sometimes it’s about forming a connection that is immediately verifiable, more often than not the odds of your psychic reading failing or succeeding are largely dependent on you.
Some clients want a straight up “yes or no” answer. They come in saying they have a “quick question,” which as often as not turns out to be very complicated.
Some want their psychic to “prove a connection” (and then follow that up with a question that even they don’t know the answer to, which means that a connection is impossible to prove based on those parameters).
And some will ignore certain aspects of a reading and zero in on others, depending on which part fits in with the scenario they want to see play out. Then once it does play out they’ll confabulate on the experience based on whether or not the desired outcome was achieved.
Why Won’t He Change?
This is a question I get asked on an almost daily basis, particularly from clients who are unhappy with the lack of affection, emotional expression or reassurance that they’re getting from their relationship partners.
But maybe a better question would be “why did he change in the first place?”
In most cases, the relationship started out on a good note, with the love interest pursuing ardently and the client expressing no doubts or concerns about his level of interest. And then over time, something changed. Or more specifically he changed.
Of course when that happens, the natural response is to try to figure out what happened and what you can do to change him back. Especially if the man you fell in love with in the first place seemed to be a lot more like Prince Charming than the toad you’re stuck with now.
Men Are From Mars (and Venus): Astrology, Men and Love
We hear so much about men being from Mars — and in a lot of ways this is true, at least astrologically.
In general, men tend to relate more to their natal Mars positions and project their natal Venus positions out onto the women (or male partners, if gay) in their lives.
This is in line with the Jungian concept of anima/animus (inner woman or inner man) projections that each of us embody. But this also tells us a great deal about what men are looking for in a mate.
A man’s natal Venus sign placement describes not only what he’s attracted to, but how he’s likely to conduct himself in relationship.
It tells us how he expresses love and affection, how he receives love and affection from others, and how he relates to his partner in a one-on-one relationship. It tells what he’s looking for in a soulmate and how capable he is of investing himself emotionally in soulmate relationships.
Debunking the Myths about Astrology
I was recently contacted by a high school student who was working on a class project about Astrology.
She was given an assignment to interview someone who studied and / or practiced astrology professionally, which ultimately led her to me.
Although her questions were geared more toward the reasons people “believe” in astrology than about it what it actually entails, they were respectful and insightful enough that I was inspired to indulge her.
The following is our interview in the format it was presented. Due to space constraints, it’s only a small sampling of the many myths we were able to debunk. But we’ll be looking at more of those in the coming weeks. For now though here’s the interview in its original form.
The Sun and Moon: Astrology’s Heavenly Bodies
Astrologically speaking, most people know their Sun signs. They’ll say “I’m a Leo” or “I’m a water sign” or “I was born on the Virgo/Libra cusp.”
Many think that’s all there is to it, but nothing could be further from the truth! The Moon sign is not only as important as the Sun sign, it’s often even moreso.
Eastern astrologers, for example, are more interested in Moon signs than Sun signs, and in many areas almost everyone knows their own Moon sign from an early age.